Monday, August 1, 2011

What Do You Do?

Whatever your passion is, sometimes daily life presents obstacles that makes fulfilling your love or passion difficult. One of my passions is writing. ( if you didn't know that already ) I've been working on my WIP for months and should be finished by now. But I'm not. Myriads of issues have come up in my family that have kept me from being able to keep my usual pace. It's so hard to not feel like I'm letting myself ( as well as readers ) down.

Those of you who've read HEAVENLY know that the story is my family story dealing with autism, substance abuse and other family issues. It was painful to write because we ( as a family ) were at the peak of my son's drug abuse during the writing. At least I could control the outcome of "Luke's" issues in Heavenly. I haven't had that luxury in real life. His choices have taken our family on a roller coaster ride that won't stop and seems to be headed toward a major crash.

Unfortunately, "Luke's" relapsed again. This time he's older and has a wife and two babies. The stakes are so much higher and I feel even more helpless. Our whole family is rallying around them to try and help but he's quite far down the path again.

I always enlist God's help in my life and I pray for him daily. At this point, I feel like that's ALL I can do because he's an adult and has to live with the results of his choices. But it's still so difficult.

If you've been through this ( or something similar ) share your thoughts and ideas and what you've found that works. Your ideas and suggestions might help me and others out there who are dealing with similar challenges.

x x Jennifer


Kasumi said...

Oh, God, what can we do?

My boyfriend has his own issues. No drug related, but big issues too. And I only can pray God or somebody to help him. Because I can't do anything. Only be here waiting...

I'm so sorry. You have your own problems, but I've just to talk to him and I'm affected.

I'll pray for your son too.

All my love.

jenniferlaurens said...

Thanks for the prayers. I've seen prayer work, that's why I believe in it. Hang in there with your boyfriend. He feels your love and support!

Kasumi said...

Thanks for your words, Jennifer.
I'm sure we'll see better days :)

Lucia (iLive, iLaugh, iLove Books) said...


I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. Sometimes, during difficult times like these, all you can do is pray and wait for God to work His miracles. Something good will happen. He will make it happen. Until then, I will be praying for you.

There's an issue with my family, and it's with me. I don't take drugs or anything, of course. Well, kind of. I have a chronic kidney disease called MPGN, and it's been the bane of our lives in this household. It's prevented me from doing marching band or joining the tennis team. Eating is difficult because I have to watch my sodium, protein, and sugar intake. Plus I have to take steroids for treatment. Because of that, I've gained 50 pounds since I started taking the medication. Physical issues aside, it's been mentally and emotionally taxing- not just for me, but also for my parents.

I should probably stop complaining now, because I've heard of worse problems. But along the journey I've learned to rely on God. It's good to know that somebody's always there. Sometimes I have my doubts, but I just have to work through them. And I've learned to enjoy and appreciate every moment that I can get with my friends and family. After all, if I hadn't been sent to the ER after my feet started swelling, who knows where I might be today. Maybe with our Father.

Wishing you all the best.


Val said...


My heart goes out to you. I share similar problems. We can only love them and pray for them.

You and your son will be in my prayers.

Carol said...

Oh Jennifer, I'm so sorry that he relapsed again. I've never been through something like that but I can relate with your suffering as a parent who love their son. As a reader you're not letting me down you're experiencing rough times & I think we all understand that. Hung in there, you'll see better times.

I'll pray for your son & family.

Wishing you all the best,

Marissafarrar said...

Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I can't image how hard that must be for all of your family. I guess in times like this writing needs to take a back seat. I'm sure your readers wouldn't think any less of you if your next book took longer.

Mandy IReadIndie said...

Jennifer I am so sorry to hear about this unforunate situation your are having to deal with, and those babies too! I believe 100% prayer is the only thing you can do...and the only thing that can help. God can perform miracles even today. I am standing on God's word that He will pull your son through this, and everyone will be stronger because of it. You and your family are in my prayers!

Gigi said...

Jennifer, i'm so sorry for everything you and your family is going through. I pray that God help your son and your family in this difficult times.

My dad had a drinking problem long time ago, cuz the stress at work, and all. He was one of those people that because of the sucess at work, family wasnt one of his mayor priority, only work work work, he realize all the problems and stress that was bringing to our house, check himself to an AA treatment and finally go to church, he wasnt a believer. Now years have pass and we thank God for all the blessings.

Hang in there Jennifer, everything will be all right, support your son, in this moments that for him everything seems dark and blur. God will give you strength.

Hugs to you, your son & family,

Unknown said...

Thinking of you and your family sweetie. I want to hug you and send you strength. I will keep you, your family and your son in my prayers. I will pray he finds the strength inside of himself to fight this addiction.

My father was a drug addict and alcoholic. I have seen the devestation of not getting help. It sounds like your son has the support system he needs to recover from this. Stay strong when I know you feel weak. Reach out for the strength of all that love you. Let him know you love him. Hoping and praying for the best!!!


JoJo (Jo Anna) said...

Jennifer my heart goes out to you and your family. Sadly, as brutal as this may be to here, there is nothing anyone can do. "Luke" needs to want to help himself. I am certain you know this already. I have seen many people struggle with addictions. I have found only their will to change is what makes the difference.

Whenever I have a huge problem I don't know what to do with I give it to God. I literally try to stop challenging myself for an answer I can't provide and tell God I am giving it to him. For me, it has worked out. Maybe not the answer I wanted at the time however I was answered..

I am sorry if my response is indirect however I don't know that there is an answer. You seem like an amazingly strong woman and I have faith in you that you will get through this. Perhaps I should send you back the poem you sent to me. Remember, God chose you as "Luke's" mom for a reason.

Hugs to you...

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